Don't Overdo Your Honey Do

I can only imagine one thing more glorious than a fully checked off list, and that is having help to get it done. I love to make lists and delegate, it’s how I’m wired. Many of you understand me, but others reading this article wish us list makers would take a flying leap. To you, seeing the scribbled (but sometimes typed) “Honey Do” list displayed prominently in a place where you can’t claim to have missed it is tantamount to having an ingrown toenail. It’s as if the list maker has managed to hand pick all the chores or errands you loathe, don’t have the money for, or know how to complete. How insensitive, indeed.

If you are the list maker, before you even pick up the pen, consider how your Honey will react to this list. Ensure the requests are timed appropriately (not at the end of a hard day) , remember to use respectful wording (many list makers have been accused of being bossy), and perhaps most importantly, communicate gratitude for all your Honey contributes. Little things mean a LOT and we all respond positively to praise. Offer to do something for your Honey in exchange. If you’ve asked him to change your oil, perhaps you could wash his car while he’s working on yours. It’s a two way street and the more you work together, the stronger your relationship will be.

Keep in mind that Honey Do lists are more likely to be accomplished when they are kept short, like tasks are grouped together, and the deeds are clearly communicated. Start small with convenient, easily within budget, simple tasks. Completing them will build momentum and both of you will feel good about getting to do’s done.